Peacemaking, Church Hurt, and Healing Without Reconciliation | Pastor Trey & Jordan Pastor Trey welcomes his wife Jordan to the Formed by Jesus podcast in their new studio to reflect on the Formed by Peacemaking practice and discuss making peace with church hurt. Jordan shares takeaways about understanding both the people involved and the process, examining her own heart, and approaching conflict with humility. They talk candidly about how young, inexperienced leadership can unintentionally hurt others, including early mistakes in staff management, unclear expectations, oversharing, and giving false hope, and how Trey has grown toward more intentional leadership. Jordan describes the hidden burdens of being a pastor’s wife, including carrying behind-the-scenes pain, resisting defensiveness, and enduring slander without setting the record straight. They explore Whitney’s points that healing can happen without reconciliation, forgiveness as release, the danger of bitterness, and the temptation to lock away one’s heart, while emphasizing that peacemaking is hard but rewarding. 00:00 Welcome and Studio Update 00:52 Peacemaking Takeaways 02:56 Church Hurt Topic Setup 04:13 Early Leadership Mistakes 06:46 Leading Staff Better 11:12 Oversharing and Boundaries 13:49 Pastor Family Hidden Load 17:04 Slander and Wolves 20:13 Truth And Boundaries 21:00 Healing Without Reconciliation 22:02 Bitterness And Malice Spiral 23:13 We Will Not Die 25:15 When Peace Isnt 26:29 Calling Survives Failure 27:53 Release And Forgive 30:30 Church Hurt And Transaction 32:16 Locked Heart Season 35:52 People Who Stay 38:40 Peacemaking Is Hard 40:45 Final Blessing And Comment