Why We Go Slow: Peacemaking, Discipleship, and Honoring Your Parents | Formed by Jesus Podcast In a new studio format, the hosts explain why their church focuses on one spiritual practice for months rather than covering many topics quickly, arguing that transformation and discipleship require slow, repeated formation and that practices like peacemaking need longer than a few weeks. They discuss how the Sermon on the Mount may be a condensed synthesis of Jesus’ teachings and why sermon-based group guides help people process teachings beyond Sunday. They outline a revised group rhythm influenced by Practicing the Way—learning, practicing, and reflecting/processing—emphasizing deliberate practice and debriefing to avoid ingraining unhealthy habits. The conversation applies this to honoring parents, clarifying honor versus affection or control, exploring thresholds in relationships, and distinguishing lament from contempt, including how to respond when parents have caused deep harm without slipping into gossip or bitterness. 00:00 New Studio Banter 01:26 Why Long Practice Series 03:03 Sermon on Mount Strategy 05:50 Discipleship Over Content 07:50 Rethinking Group Guides 11:14 Learn Practice Process 13:36 Deliberate Practice Debriefs 16:27 Honor Parents Nuance 17:07 Life Relationship Thresholds 20:33 Culture Contempt Authority 23:52 Honor Not Friendship 24:49 Honor Across Cultures 26:26 When Parents Are Abusive 29:45 Gratitude For Survival 31:54 Lament Versus Contempt 34:58 Gossip And Control Traps 38:39 When To Confront 40:49 Biblical Parenting Limits 43:30 Hebrew Greek Banter 44:32 Closing Blessing